Regular check-ins are crucial in any friendship.
Many of my best friends are long distance and having check-ins has helped us SO MUCH to preserve our friendship.
It’s our time to see how each of us is doing internally and how we feel about the friendship in general.
If there are any lingering issues or concerns, it’s also the perfect time to bring those up!
Yes, that can sound a bit scary tbh but with the right communication and willingness to be vulnerable with your friend, you will most def gain a lot from these open conversations.
My friends mean the world to me. That’s why I’m always willing to do whatever it takes to make sure we are all feeling good about each others’ roles in our lives. Yes, even having potentially awkward and really uncomfy convos😅.
So here are 22 personal questions to ask your besties during your next check-in. I hope these help you strengthen your relationship and grow as friends!
22 Questions to Ask During a Friend Check-In
1.What do you think are 2 “toxic traits” of mine?
2.What do you think are two toxic traits of yours?
3. How can I be a better friend to you?
4. What value do you get from our friendship?
5. Where do you hope to see us in 5 years?
6. How can we overcome “challenges” to our friendship (ex: long- distance, lack of communication, different views on certain issues)?
7. What is something you’ve always wanted to tell me but never had the guts to?
8. What do you think is something I need to work on in our friendship? Why?
9. What is something you feel like YOU need to work on in our friendship? Why?
10. How can we make our friendship more exciting/fun?
11. Is there anything really good from our friendship you feel we had before but we’ve kind of lost over the years?
12. As you get older what is something that you really value and need from your friendships and relationships in general?
13. What place do you give our friendship in your life in general?
14. How can we communicate more effectively as friends?
15. How can we hold proper space for each other to have different opinions amd views on certain things?
16. Was there ever a time when you felt you couldn’t be your authentic self with me? Why?
17. How do you think you could show up more authentically in our relationship?
18. What are some fun events/projects/activities we could plan to do together as friends so we have things to look forward to?
19. What is an aspect of long distance friendship that you feel we haven’t “mastered” yet? (If that applies to you and your friend)
20. How can we better navigate this aspect of our friendship?
21. What is one aspect of long distance friendships you think we HAVE mastered?
22. What are some cute, fun little “rewards” we can give ourselves for the everyday wins in our friendship?🤗
