Yes we’re adults…we should be unfazed when that person doesn’t text back.
I mean who cares? We’re too busy living our own lives right?
Buuuuutt let’s be real here…..
When you meet someone, you click and you can actually see things going somewhere with them, it’s natural to miss them a little when they don’t text back.
And honestly, it doesn’t even have to do with seeing something serious with them. The simple fact that you enjoy talking to them is a good enough reason to miss them.
I mean do you know how rare this is today??
We live in a world that’s become so isolated and lonely that having a genuine connection (platonic or otherwise btw) with anyone is PRICELESS.
So stop beating yourself up if them not texting you bothers you a bit. You’re human.
Now, obviously there are a million legit reasons why they may not text back. For instance, they might just be really busy with their own life. But for the sake of your peace and your sanity in the meantime, here are 5 healthy things to keep you (and your mind) occupied when he doesn’t immediately respond to your text.
1. Spend time with your friends
Yes, remember them? The ones you ditched when your dating life finally started taking off again?
(Hey it happens to the best of us.)
But instead of overthinking and spending an unhealthy amount of time wondering when/why/how come he hasn’t texted back, get back to the present and make plans with your friends or your family.
Plan a dinner date with your bestie.
Invite friends over for a game night.
Plan a little getaway trip with your family. This is a great one especially if you haven’t seen each other in a while.
These are simple but fun little activities you can do that will distract you and help youhave some fun instead of anxiously waiting for a text back.
2. Get back to your hobbies
You know you lived a life before this person came along right?
You had things you liked to do on your own that brought you great joy and happiness?
Get back to those things!!
If your reading list that you created at the beginning of the year is getting way too long, pick up a book and get started on it!
Or maybe sign up for a dance or cooking class to learn something new and step out of your comfort zone.
3. Work on a project you’ve put off (or start a new one)
Too often when we get wrapped up in the excitement and dreaminess of talking to a new person, we end up putting even the serious things in our lives on the back burner.
Remember that book you’ve been wanting to write since forever?
Or that business idea you still haven’t started working on?
Use the silence from this person to get back to your projects and make them a reality!
Take that mental energy of wondering what they’re up to and channel it into something productive. For example…
- Start by writing one paragraph for your book
- Spend 30 minutes doing some research for your company or reaching out to someone who can give you some advice.
4. Consider re-texting
Okay hear me out on this one.
I know the last thing on your mind is texting them AGAIN after they didn’t respond to your first text.
But…maybe, JUST maybe they missed your first text.
Let’s be real… that can happen.
Or they saw it, meant to respond but got busy with something and forgot.
Life happens!!!
And when it does, I think it’s perfectly fine to send a follow up text after some time just to check in.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done that with people and they actually thanked me for reminding them because they got swamped with work or something.
Final Thoughts
I get it. You’re super excited about this new connection you just made.
But sometimes, it’s easy to forget that there’s more to life than your relationship with this person and the text they haven’t sent you yet.
When that happens, I hope the tips from this post help distract you a little bit so you can actually live your life and stop staring at your phone all day waiting for the text to pop up!
